Do you tell people that you're doing WW?
I'm really weird about it. Two people know (other than you guys). My fiance, and a friend of mine that's also doing it. My best friend doesn't know and my family doesn't know. I've basically banned Tom from saying anything to anyone. I esp. don't want my mother knowing. I guess it's because a lot of my food related issues stem from my relationship with her.
I'm really weird about it. Two people know (other than you guys). My fiance, and a friend of mine that's also doing it. My best friend doesn't know and my family doesn't know. I've basically banned Tom from saying anything to anyone. I esp. don't want my mother knowing. I guess it's because a lot of my food related issues stem from my relationship with her.
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Re: Do you tell people?
Wed, January 30, 2008 - 4:26 PMI tell everyone, the reason is, that it keeps me honest about what goes in my mouth and I have people cheering for me
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Wed, January 30, 2008 - 5:03 PMTHIS time, I told everyone. I never did in the past, because I was always afraid I'd 'fail' (fall off the wagon and gain it back)...and I didn't want people judging me for slipping. But this time, in order to give myself a better chance of success, I not only told my friends and family, but I've created a tribe about it. I did these things because I AM a people pleaser, and because I really do WANT to be successful. I want this to be IT. I'm tired of never getting it all the way off. I figured it help if I told people. I basically just don't like to let people down. But, at the same time, I feel like weight is such a sensitive subject, and really a very very personal thing. While I don't LIKE the fact that people may judge me for gaining it back if i do, knowing that they might just do that helps keep me in line a bit.
It may not be a healthy approach (caring more about what others think than solely doing it for myself), but so far, it has worked for me. -
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Wed, January 30, 2008 - 5:20 PMHey,
Don't ask, don't tell!!
Or you could look at the LAPD motto: admit nothing, deny everything :-)
I am kidding of course.
If someone asks me then I do not lie but I do not try to hide anything either. I am proud that I can admit that I am an unhealthy weight and do not want to die too young or not be able to live life the way I want to! Gaining the weight back just proves that I am human and I obviously have a problem with food, that's why I am obese!! Anyone who cannot admit to their weaknesses, and we ALL HAVE THEM, is a fool in my eyes!
Shout it out to the world!!!! And to hell with those that judge! Besides, they are usually the reason why we gained the weight in the first place!!!!!
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Wed, January 30, 2008 - 6:37 PMBut is admitting your weaknesses to other people truly different than self-realization of those weaknesses? -
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Thu, January 31, 2008 - 8:40 AMI dont think that admitting that you are doing something good for your self is a weakness. Yes over eating and not being active is a weakness, but doing something about it is not -
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Thu, January 31, 2008 - 4:33 PMI don't think I made that clear.
It seemed like he was saying that you were a fool if you can't admit your weaknesses (overeating in this case) to other people. My point was, isn't it more important to admit your weaknesses to yourself and do something about them and that you aren't a fool just because you don't want to share it with other people.
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Fri, February 1, 2008 - 2:36 PMMy sleep deprived, calorie deprived mommy brain seriously isn't comprehending much these days, but I think I get ya! ;-)
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Thu, January 31, 2008 - 8:49 AMNot much different. I have realized my weaknesses, and have shared them with friends. I don't think you can share the weaknesses, if you haven't fully realized them yourself! The disclosure of my weight loss goal to friends is really just a tactic to keep me on track. -
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Sat, February 2, 2008 - 8:41 AMI think I understand also.
You are definitely not a fool if you do not want to share with others about your weakness(es).
I meant that you should not feel compelled to share with anyone but, if you do share you should feel proud that you are doing something to take care of yourself.
In all reality, it is nobody elses business. People can only judge you on your words and actions. Well, they can judge you on your clothes too but that is a totally different story.
As far as I know there are no "for real" mind readers in this world.
Although I have to admit that sometimes I'll think of my mom or even just talk about her and within an hour or two she will call me. It is kinda creepy sometimes but I love her :-)
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Wed, February 27, 2008 - 4:57 PMI told 2 people and another friend sort of "caught" me reading material, so i started out not really telling people. After i had dropped 20 pounds though it became obvious... so at that point i started being more open about it. I mostly didn't want to hear "oh you should do... <Blah blah blah>" advice from people who mostly have no clue what it is like to be obese and have, at worst, struggled with 15 or 20 pounds. Now i feel differently about the whole thing. I'm clear this is a life long change and i'm different, so i don't care who knows what. At this point, it is inspiring to other people so it's a lot more fun than it was in the beginning.